I am adamant about routines, it’s something that you will hear me talk about a dozen times on my blog. It is the one thing that keeps me on track. It seems like my whole life is in place when our routine is working well.
But, What happens when it isn’t? What happens when life happens and our routines fall to the wayside? Oh sister, it is going to happen. It will happen multiple times.
Our routine began slipping at the end of last week. It all started when we had an unexpected, scary trip to the emergency room with one of our boys. We were gone most of the morning with him and after returning home we just hung out as a family.
THAT’S OKAY! We had a scary experience and I just wanted to cuddle with my babies. The last thing on my mind was my routine. The weekend was super busy with me having a yard sale, attending a wedding and doing grocery shopping on Sunday we had very little time to catch up.
It started when I didn’t complete my 1 load of laundry per day, then turned into not having laundry for school the next day, we didn’t have anything ready for the busy Monday morning, everyone was late. The boys have both suffered a cold all week long and I sat all day Monday and held Isaac and all day on Tuesday holding Eli.
It just snowballed from there and we have been out of routine mode and in survival mode for the last week and a half.
I’m going to share with you some things to do and remember when this happens to you as well.
Give grace. Such simple words but they mean so much. Give grace to yourself and your family. Remember, things happen, as long as you are taking active steps to regain your routine then all is well! Try not to stress over it!
Take Some Time For Yourself
You may be thinking, Kendall…I am behind and busy. I can’t take time for myself!! Yes, you can! And it is so important that you do. Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” That means that in order for you to take care of everyone else, then you need to take care of yourself first. In an airplane they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on before your kids, why is this? Because if you’re not okay, you have nothing to give anyone else. Take a few minutes, leave the kids with your husband or family and go for a drive, go take a bubble bath, take a walk. Fill your cup.
You need to start small. Start with one small simple task that will motivate you to do more. Mine is cleaning up our main living area which is our open kitchen and living room. My husband and I tag teamed it, he washed some dishes while I picked up baby toys. Within just a few minutes we had our house back in order. I immediately had a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders. I promise if you do that one simple step it will actually be a giant leap back into your routine.
Ask For Help
This is a hard one for me. I am a full-time stay at home mom, I feel like it is my job to keep the home running smoothly. It’s my job to clean and cook. My husband doesn’t agree. He thinks it mutual. I struggle when needing to ask for help. But there comes a time when you are drowning and you must ask someone.
Write Down Your Routine
You may not have a routine written out on paper, but this is a good time to write it down and really look at whether it is working for you. Think about why you slipped from your routine. Is it just because of life events or do you need to simplify your current routine?
Wake up tomorrow with good intent to get your routine back on track. Be intentional about everything that you do in the day. Try not to waste away time on social media and other medial tasks. Only focus on what needs to be completed.
If you take one thing away from this just know that it is okay to slip. As long as you are actively trying to get back on track!